alive

If it really is, that we may only live a little part of what is inside us - what is going to happen to the rest of it?
I have been thinking about this a lot recently - without expressing it this distilled. What are the different possible scenarios I CAN imagine - and how many of them might BE ABLE to exist parallel or consecutive? We have always had to choose in life… but a certain point when we finally actually realize that nothing is infinite and our possibilities are limited we eventually start to make real decisions. We kind of notice that our backpack can not be filled with ALL these items but we will need to leave some behind because they won’t fit with the rest. Some combinations might be hindering for us at a certain point while others will come in handy in any case.
I guess by deciding on which little part of our life to live we in fact decide on who we want to be, what we want to become - and maybe also on who we already are. So what about the rest of it? Hopefully we figured out what might not make us happy, lead to a dead-end? Or is it more in a sense of not expressing what is inside us and not being the way we actually are? Hiding our true inner self? In which case we can only try to find someone making us feel safe and welcome - the way we are. And if not? We should try to be as much of ourselves as possible because if we don’t the “what about the rest of us” will follow us.

People like to ask one another how they imagine their ideal partner - I say that doesn’t matter. Actually I have no clue how this soul mate should be and most people do not share their life with this ideal partner anyway. At the end of the day this person should make you feel good and right - that’s what it is about and not whether that person is of the right height, weight, hair, style and what-so-ever.

The right person should love you in such a subtle way like your cat or dog would do. Sounds funny? Well my cat does not bother about my hair as long as he’s allowed to chew on it when it’s freshly washed and he doesn’t mind my clothing as long as I love him and he doesn’t mind my hobbies as long as I don’t forget to take good care of him. That simple it is - if things are ideal you are able to accept that person how this person is, you don’t try to change each other in terms of how to dress or style your hair. You are empathic about the other one and try to understand instead of always just putting each other down if things don’t work out as you planned for yourself. You don’t force each other into anything but try to find fair compromises if necessary that suit both. In short - honest love and true respect, that’s what makes a relationship work - and not how nicely shaped your partner is or what car he drives.