How it should feel
People like to ask one another how they imagine their ideal partner - I say that doesn’t matter. Actually I have no clue how this soul mate should be and most people do not share their life with this ideal partner anyway. At the end of the day this person should make you feel good and right - that’s what it is about and not whether that person is of the right height, weight, hair, style and what-so-ever.
The right person should love you in such a subtle way like your cat or dog would do. Sounds funny? Well my cat does not bother about my hair as long as he’s allowed to chew on it when it’s freshly washed and he doesn’t mind my clothing as long as I love him and he doesn’t mind my hobbies as long as I don’t forget to take good care of him. That simple it is - if things are ideal you are able to accept that person how this person is, you don’t try to change each other in terms of how to dress or style your hair. You are empathic about the other one and try to understand instead of always just putting each other down if things don’t work out as you planned for yourself. You don’t force each other into anything but try to find fair compromises if necessary that suit both. In short - honest love and true respect, that’s what makes a relationship work - and not how nicely shaped your partner is or what car he drives.